WA Police Commissioner Karl O’Callaghan has recently suggested metal detectors be installed at Perth train station. WA Police are on the brink of gaining remarkable new powers to search anyone on the street without evidence or even reason. This is to cut down on the amount of booze-fuelled violence in the entertainment precinct of Northbridge. You’ll notice the one thing that hasn’t been suggested – that people just don’t go there. No-one’s suggesting that if the Perth streets after hours are a war zone of violent criminals the best single solution is to not go there. Or to go there in a large group. Or to stay sober while you’re there. All the “solutions” cut down on the civil liberties of regular people, but not to the extent that they can’t leave the house. Just that they have to be willing to be searched, prodded, scanned and xrayed.
But that’s good enough for women who’d like very much not to be raped. Just stay in a group, don’t go out, stay sober. If you go into Northbridge and fall victim to an angry drunk who punches you in the head, well society’s gone to the dogs. If a stranger, your best mate, your husband rapes you – you really should have seen it coming, shouldn’t you. There’s no way to prevent it. What did you expect? Look at that skirt you’re wearing.
Silly? No, rape culture. Rape culture is a society in which sexual violence is tacitly or overtly permissible. In which the only way to stop sexual violence is by women changing their behaviour. Rape culture is a society in which the majority of rapes go unreported. If they are reported what the woman was wearing, doing, drinking, who she was with and how late it was are all used as evidence against her. Rape culture is a world in which an extremely small (I want to say 6 per cent, but I believe that’s an American figure) percentage of reported rapes result in a conviction. It’s a society in which there are hilarious jokes about sexual violence, about prison rape. If you don’t laugh there’s something wrong with you. Or you’re just an evil femnazi man hater.
It is disappointing that in a rape culture the Police Commissioner has this to say on provisions to prevent sexual assault during this year’s Leavers’ Week:
“Female leavers should never go off with someone they do not really know,” Mr O’Callaghan said.
“They should also avoid drinking so much alcohol that they cannot make safe decisions.”
No Commish, that’s not a rape squad, that’s not special preventative measures, that’s the world. That’s what every woman is told for ever. That’s rape culture.
And before you suggest that you’re putting special sexual assault squad officers there, how is that prevention? Isn’t that you accepting that rapes are going to happen? Aren’t you just kind of admitting that you don’t care about preventing rape, but you’d better pretend like you do?
Newsflash: women don’t cause rape. But you’re not saying anything to boys or men. I’m not talking about the hiding in the bushes with a knife rapist. I’m talking about the folks you know, the guys you hang out with, the teenagers about to let loose with booze. You say you’ve got sniffer dogs to confiscate drugs and alcohol. Maybe also say that being drunk may make a dude more likely to misconstrue consent?
You know, it’d be kind of reassuring if the dude in charge of the organisation that deals with allegations of sexual assault, the investigation of sexual assault and that lays sexual assault charges had something to say about how sex is an opt in as opposed to an opt out activity and how young men must remember that if she’s drunk or passed out there is no consent and they will not be spared the full measure of the law. I suspect he didn’t say that because he doesn’t believe it’s true. But it’d be good to put up a front of actually caring about sexual assault – in the same way he’s pretending to care about alcohol fuelled violence in party districts.
What does he have to say about the potential perpetrators of rape?:
Mr O’Callaghan has said he was disappointed with the number of toolies, many in their late teens or early 20s, who tried to party with leavers last year.
“Disappointed”. Which is what your parents said to you when you failed your maths exam.
The world needs consent lessons. Everyone, man, woman, child, young and old. People don’t understand consent doesn’t mean pestering until she says “oh for God’s sake, let’s get it over with”. And consent doesn’t mean having sex with someone who is drunk or passed out or dead. Sure, there’s bad people, there will possibly always be people who are violent, or abusive, or just plain no good. But they aren’t most people. Most people I know don’t understand consent. Middle class dudes with jobs and girlfriends and pets. Sure, they’ll seem alright for a while but as soon as a rape story hits the news they’ll tell you that she was drunk and embarassed that she had sex with those 30 football players, so she said she was raped. The cops she told probably assumed the same thing. So did her friends. So did the media. So did the police commissioner.
What should the commissioner be saying instead of “girls take care”? Well, he should keep saying that. Everyone should take care, male and female. But what about a line suggesting boys respect their female friends? What about a phrase along the lines of: “sex coerced via force or intoxication is rape and rape will be prosecuted (and this time we mean it)”? What about that message being carried through the entire lives of every person on the planet – including when the Commish opens his gob. What would you suggest readers? How should messages about consent be communicated?